"I don't care what he's 'doing,'" she said. "I just want to get married."
I wonder about those sort of situations. Sure, I would really, really, really like to get married. But to have no standards or expectations at all?
My fellow females are not always so discerning. Sometimes it is blatantly obvious this guy isn't good enough for her; she is an absolute angel, he needs a swift kick in the pants.
Debbi Dickinson writes of her own tale of marrying down, and she knew she was doing it. But she was 28 (she's no youngster now, so this may have been when singlehood still had a blatant stigma) and she wanted to move on with her life, even if he was a liar. No surprise then when her marriage ceased to be.
Sarah Berry's article references the need for brainpower, not just following the heart.
When your gut grumbles, it's always important to listen says Christine Meinecke, PhD . . . "Instead of following your heart, use your head and trust your gut."
She says that while using your heart (along with your intellect and intuition) is important for forming a holistic picture of a person or situation, intensity of feeling can lead us to make hasty decisions.
Rather, good decisions are made when we take the time to listen to our intellect and intuition ("gut").
Meaning, what's the rush? If it is meant to be, a little time to ponder the matter can't hurt.
The gal who professed her desperate desire for a husband got engaged, but the wedding was called off. I hope it was because she realized that no matter one's yearning for wedlock, one should still not sell themselves short while remaining realistic.