tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post1500797327066846563..comments2024-02-06T11:57:25.334-05:00Comments on The Frumanista: Elephant in the Room Princess Leahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17217157534383672867noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-54924473465430252132013-07-05T11:16:00.032-04:002013-07-05T11:16:00.032-04:00WM: Of course they are. WM: Of course they are. Princess Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17217157534383672867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-48248092619377499362013-07-05T10:00:03.325-04:002013-07-05T10:00:03.325-04:00No, I'm friends with them because they can hol...No, I'm friends with them because they can hold normal conversations and they are awesome people.Wondering Mindshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01674669856017394565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-69893631903216716622013-07-05T09:25:28.196-04:002013-07-05T09:25:28.196-04:00Are you friends with them just because you want to...Are you friends with them just because you want to shock people? Hmmm, ulterior motive . . . Princess Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17217157534383672867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-59486364087054777452013-07-04T17:44:35.764-04:002013-07-04T17:44:35.764-04:00Not to me...but most people wouldn't expect th...Not to me...but most people wouldn't expect that the friends you have are all of the opposite gender.Wondering Mindshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01674669856017394565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-67645049904437039132013-07-04T17:38:57.092-04:002013-07-04T17:38:57.092-04:00FG: A resonable individual understands that matter...FG: A resonable individual understands that matters would change, in some way, following a marriage and new priorities. But does it take so much flipping time to answer a text or an email? It's not like she dangling from his neck 24/7. <br /><br />Anon: I never said "soulmate." My issue is more along the lines of loyalty and respect. <br /><br />"Draining away" is more understandable than going AWOL the second sheva brachos week is over. People move on, both physically and emotionally, and I don't believe friendships are necessarily forever. But that should be a matter more for circumstances than a lack of simply trying, a little. <br /><br />Tovah: Yes! I have realized now what are toxic influences, and what associations are better for me. <br /><br />RAR: You rock. Bless thee, fair maid, for thy gift of knowledge thou hast graciously bestowed. (You are a chick, right?) <br /><br />WM: Should it be a shocker?<br />Princess Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17217157534383672867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-82203992721287390692013-07-03T18:45:43.076-04:002013-07-03T18:45:43.076-04:00I can safely say I have only a select few real lif...I can safely say I have only a select few real life "Friends".<br /><br />And they are married.<br /><br />And we were friends before marriage.<br /><br />And they are of the opposite gender.<br /><br />Shocker.Wondering Mindshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01674669856017394565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-15250874162181214362013-07-03T14:06:05.743-04:002013-07-03T14:06:05.743-04:00Princess Lea, I thought you might find this intere...Princess Lea, I thought you might find this interesting:<br />http://kottke.org/13/07/william-shakespeares-star-warsrosesarerednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-9671186312185537312013-07-03T12:53:27.108-04:002013-07-03T12:53:27.108-04:00Really great post!
The few TRUE friends that I ha...Really great post!<br /><br />The few TRUE friends that I have actually go back to grade school and college.<br /><br />I have had to 'divorce' some of my friends because they were sucking the life out of me.<br /><br />When you find yourself dreading seeing the person's name on Caller ID, it's time to think about making your life easier and letting go of that friendship...if it ever was a friendship.Tovah11https://www.blogger.com/profile/02046227646756717241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-60418752812988737282013-07-03T12:15:48.733-04:002013-07-03T12:15:48.733-04:00Yeah, like FrumGeek, I don't think it's an...Yeah, like FrumGeek, I don't think it's an either/or. "Friend" doesn't have to equal "soulmate" to be true. It's not an all or nothing. There are different levels of friendship, and just because you aren't "kindred spirits" (to quote Anne of Green Gables) doesn't mean you can't be good friends.<br /> I am no longer close to most of my friends from when I was younger, but I don't think it's because we didn't have a real friendship. I think life gets in the way and people no longer have the emotional or physical time to put into an intense friendship the way teenagers/very young adults do. <br />Did my married friends drop me? Well, it wasn't anything so sudden as that, it sort of drained away slowly, once we were no longer living in the same area and especially once they had kids. Now that we're older (mid 30's), I think some of them have the maturity to want to renew our friendship status, but a)it's hard to do so after being out of contact for so long and b) they are somewhat uncomfortable talking to me because they don't really know what to say.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-37221347033807975652013-07-03T09:34:02.686-04:002013-07-03T09:34:02.686-04:00I had a really close friend who dropped me when he...I had a really close friend who dropped me when he got engaged. I refuse to believe that he was never my friend to begin with. We've been close our whole lives, and then he upped and left. His wife is needy, and I recognize that she's the priority in his life now. Luckily she's started to ease up somewhat, and slowly but surely I'm getting my best friend back.FrumGeekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13698026647411592329noreply@blogger.com