tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post2182309403836581108..comments2024-02-06T11:57:25.334-05:00Comments on The Frumanista: Revenging References . . . Or Worse?Princess Leahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17217157534383672867noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-90699329445735529942011-12-08T09:24:48.505-05:002011-12-08T09:24:48.505-05:00I go the same way - if someone is redding me, I sh...I go the same way - if someone is redding me, I should be "good enough" for coffee, right? Why do I have to constantly prove myself to strangers?Princess Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17217157534383672867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-71975907294621284452011-12-07T22:19:41.117-05:002011-12-07T22:19:41.117-05:00Those moms are nuts.
I once was with a friend whe...Those moms are nuts.<br /><br />I once was with a friend when a woman called him for a reference for me. She started asking all sorts of crazy questions, am I on drugs, have I ever done drugs, do I drink, etc... <br /><br />She asked a lot more inappropriate questions. <br /><br />I called the shadchan a few minutes later and told her I wouldn't be going out with the girl. I couldn't deal with such a crazy mother. To me it's a deal breaker. <br /><br />Shadchans that refer me, are my reference. If they can't vouch for me then they shouldn't be setting me up. (my rule with local shadchans... non-local I understand the reason for references).<br /><br />Just for the record, I'm one of the most straight arrowed guys out there that has never done any crazy things. Had I a background for crazy things I would understand if there was possibly a reputation that the mother was investigating... but no this was totally out of the blue. Again a deal breaker.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-53939405067878968842011-12-07T09:23:46.683-05:002011-12-07T09:23:46.683-05:00I never used former educators for references, but ...I never used former educators for references, but some really enterprising mothers find out which high school and make some calls. <br /><br />Sometimes people who I haven't seen in forever come up to me and say, "Someone called up asking about you!" How in the world did they make the connection? I have no idea. They are scary, some of these mommies.Princess Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17217157534383672867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-50090544846799991402011-12-07T00:19:17.974-05:002011-12-07T00:19:17.974-05:00Well put with the Darth Morah.
Seriously though.....Well put with the Darth Morah.<br /><br />Seriously though... who uses high school references these days? It's all about your Israel rabbi/rebbitzon... or perhaps when you're post 20, you use actual friends, family-friends, or anyone else that actually knows you more recently.<br /><br />I can imagine my high school class rabbi being used as a reference and I can see what he would say right now, "JWG, why isn't that the really fat kid, with big glasses, and lots of hair?? oh yes he was chunky, that one. I suppose his midos were ok. His learning could have been better if only he'd concentrate more."<br /><br />No thanks... I rather reference people that know me currently as I am now. Young, professional, active, involved, and healthy. Maybe my learning could use some work, but nobody is perfect, I'll always be a work in progress.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-14316795360599204152011-12-06T14:25:09.336-05:002011-12-06T14:25:09.336-05:00Darth Morah ROTFL!!!!!I could hear the music!Darth Morah ROTFL!!!!!I could hear the music!Deborah Mavenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14878393860753110369noreply@blogger.com