tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post2387243211140072982..comments2024-02-06T11:57:25.334-05:00Comments on The Frumanista: It's MY DayPrincess Leahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17217157534383672867noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-90881969002396016732012-06-06T09:20:15.390-04:002012-06-06T09:20:15.390-04:00You'd be surprised. Even if the "hotzy-to...You'd be surprised. Even if the "hotzy-totzy"s decided to downplay weddings, it would take a while to catch on. <br /><br />Just by you not going along with everybody else's mishagaas could make a difference. The chaos theory; butterfly wings leading to hurricanes.Princess Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17217157534383672867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-83653235799621485842012-06-05T17:13:20.881-04:002012-06-05T17:13:20.881-04:00I prefer to call it realism lol. Call me cynical, ...I prefer to call it realism lol. Call me cynical, but I don't think me making a simple wedding is going to change the reality of people taking out third mortgages to make a wedding. <br /><br />It would be one thing if a really well-known family- trend setters- in a given city were to do such a thing. My family, extended included, although known by many people isn't what I would call "the type" to generate change. <br /><br />Idealistically, ya, I would love to catalyze many changes in the Orthodox Jewish world. Realistically, I won't be doing that tomorrow or the day after. Maybe the day after that though.... 0:-)%Shocked%https://www.blogger.com/profile/08017279590797608442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-44348296082010325042012-05-30T09:35:06.880-04:002012-05-30T09:35:06.880-04:00Shocked: Such fatalism? "That's the world...Shocked: Such fatalism? "That's the world we live in"? <br /><br />Change thyself, as the Chofetz Chaim said, and change the world.Princess Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17217157534383672867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-88515626412364922572012-05-29T20:33:32.713-04:002012-05-29T20:33:32.713-04:00I have a friend whose brother had a wedding with f...I have a friend whose brother had a wedding with family only (this was 6 or 7 years ago). Everyone thought it was weird, but the more I thought about it, the more I liked it. <br /><br />Interestingly enough, I was just telling someone the other day that I'd be more than happy to spend next to nothing on the wedding so all that money could be used towards the future. I mean, ya, if I were loaded it would be one thing, but I'm not. Will my wedding be nice? Probably, but not because I want it that way. Nu nu... That's the world we live in.%Shocked%https://www.blogger.com/profile/08017279590797608442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-43632736007021330772012-05-25T12:49:37.205-04:002012-05-25T12:49:37.205-04:00This is a great article. I never knew it was all ...This is a great article. I never knew it was all so simple. I think in today's era of 60% divorce rate (so its said but that could be a lie as well, to reduce the amount of people getting married), everyone is scared to get married. Also back then, people were accepting of the natural order: you have to get married in order to have sex. Now, everyone has sex, so guys delay having to be responsible and get married. Times have definetely changed, so instead of commitment, people just have a whole jar of broken hearts.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08456401906889491942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-6255259326265927012012-05-23T09:32:56.878-04:002012-05-23T09:32:56.878-04:00The concept of bar mitzvah parties was invented in...The concept of bar mitzvah parties was invented in the 15th century Germany, I believe. A new concept, and one we didn't have to embrace. <br /><br />There is no peer pressure. Because no one really cares what other people do. If you care, it's self-pressure.Princess Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17217157534383672867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-34746192501459907532012-05-23T00:37:28.871-04:002012-05-23T00:37:28.871-04:00If that is so, then people are making waaaay to bi...If that is so, then people are making waaaay to big of a deal about bar/bas mitzbah's. Cmon. The kid is a teen. How big of a party do they need?<br /><br />And yes, it seems that people spend way too much money on weddings, and a lot of it is because of peer pressure, competition, and wanting to flaunt your money and look better than the other guy. Maybe people have forgotten what we are really celebrating.Altiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08772248808276734643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-11225103850614899262012-05-22T23:56:41.142-04:002012-05-22T23:56:41.142-04:00Maybe it's to top the bar/bat mitzvah celebrat...Maybe it's to top the bar/bat mitzvah celebration?Sparrowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07454778344352768644noreply@blogger.com