tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post2982327110287560122..comments2024-02-06T11:57:25.334-05:00Comments on The Frumanista: Stating the ObviousPrincess Leahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17217157534383672867noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-83882557805654755182011-06-28T10:08:25.931-04:002011-06-28T10:08:25.931-04:00But we aren't little boys anymore, are we?But we aren't little boys anymore, are we?PLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09350667776363447301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-61835030767038370932011-06-27T10:16:29.870-04:002011-06-27T10:16:29.870-04:00..or like how little boys point out the fact that .....or like how little boys point out the fact that a truck/bus/police car just passed by. Mastering the obvious is hard for a lot of people<br />lolharry-er than them allhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07957506180776134351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-47548223448711377262011-06-06T09:41:19.810-04:002011-06-06T09:41:19.810-04:00Ish - As I said, I LIKE my height. It's one of...Ish - As I said, I LIKE my height. It's one of things that makes me, me. <br /><br />But for someone else to make an unnecessary statement about it - that also shows THEIR issues. I have had people take my height personally - "You make me feel short!" Yes, that was my motivation. Centuries of DNA morphed and intertwined to create me to make YOU feel bad. <br /><br />Comments like those show others' intelligence, insecurities, and manners very quickly.PLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09350667776363447301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-53990101117677711002011-06-06T00:17:01.206-04:002011-06-06T00:17:01.206-04:00The you're really tall and similar comments ge...The you're really tall and similar comments get really old, really fast. I'm 6'3 and female, so yeah, it's an expected reaction. You can think it, but I agree wholeheartedly that it's rude to say, and stems from a lack of intelligence. 'You're tall' is not even as bad as 'How tall are you'. <br />My responses have ranged from ignoring the person, to 'I never divulge this information to strangers' to 'tall enough' to 'really,really tall' and to the 'you're tall' one, I usually say 'you noticed, huh?' Basically you make them feel stupid, bc in my opinion it's a stupid and invasive comment.silverycloudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16452647487768475474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-13927266242934543852011-06-05T23:25:20.728-04:002011-06-05T23:25:20.728-04:00I often state truths myself. The obvious can be a ...I often state truths myself. The obvious can be a way of connecting with someone. <br /><br />Things like "that's frustrating" and other comments on a person's (emotional) state can show empathy. <br /><br />Generally, though, I find that people respond based on how they feel. If someone's proud of their height, saying "you're tall!" is a compliment and respond accordingly. If they are uneasy or embarrassed by it, they may brush it off to take the comment as an insult. While facts may be neutral, they can be taken as either positive or negative by connotation.Ish Yehudihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09559113766026730554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-32288923710610195042011-06-05T22:13:28.702-04:002011-06-05T22:13:28.702-04:00I know exactly what you mean. I'm 5'11...I know exactly what you mean. I'm 5'11'' and always hear: "you're so tall!/ how tall are you?" and "good luck finding a tall husband!". The last one bothers me the most. I never know how to react to people. When they ask me where my height comes from, I started telling people my parents fed me miracle grow when I was younger (I should probably stop saying that, but it's fun to see how people react :-)So Truenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-83371318163573420672011-06-05T21:45:27.925-04:002011-06-05T21:45:27.925-04:00I hear. I'm 5"6 which in the Jewish world...I hear. I'm 5"6 which in the Jewish world is very tall but I guess like anything else, it all depends on perspective...<br /><br />It's like when people say "no offense but..." if you are saying "no offense" it means you prob will offend so don't say anything lolNhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11988396893369485100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-31169363730567231612011-06-05T21:23:10.168-04:002011-06-05T21:23:10.168-04:00I have always liked that passage, too. Although I...I have always liked that passage, too. Although I am not tall, I can relate- people say obvious things to me, too. My favorite is "Wow, you look tired!" Most of the times that people say that, I am not tired at all, so they think they are stating the obvious, but it is really not true. In which case it is just insulting. I guess some people just like to hear their own voice....SternGradhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04629199158696400120noreply@blogger.com