tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post3340166805598472571..comments2024-02-06T11:57:25.334-05:00Comments on The Frumanista: Sell Me! Princess Leahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17217157534383672867noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-44513546174598178752014-06-03T10:06:21.376-04:002014-06-03T10:06:21.376-04:00I'm afraid I don't understand, unless you ...I'm afraid I don't understand, unless you mean being an introvert in an extrovert family. But I've never felt able to masquerade as an extrovert, in my family or elsewhere.<br /><br />Chag sameach!Daniel Saundershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07087956908558706584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-6596722736246474242014-06-03T10:01:21.830-04:002014-06-03T10:01:21.830-04:00We're introverts masquerading as extroverts.We're introverts masquerading as extroverts. Princess Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17217157534383672867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-57037386538635247702014-06-02T16:10:32.236-04:002014-06-02T16:10:32.236-04:00Maybe ‘rooted’ isn’t the right word (implying caus...Maybe ‘rooted’ isn’t the right word (implying causation), but I’m pretty sure there is a correlation between shyness and low self-esteem, even if they don’t always go together. Certainly I have found in my case when my self-esteem and confidence rise, my shyness falls and I can do things I would not otherwise have dreamt of doing.<br /><br />I’m lousy at small talk too, and am very much an introvert in a fairly extrovert family...Daniel Saundershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07087956908558706584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-11184021000135219732014-06-02T10:05:59.992-04:002014-06-02T10:05:59.992-04:00Shyness is about low-self esteem? I thought it was...Shyness is about low-self esteem? I thought it was a social issue alone. <br /><br />I suck at small talk, but that is a marker of introverts. Introversion is not shyness; it is just a preference for small crows and serious conversation, but there's a limit. <br /><br />To quote Ricky Gervais, "I hate people." Ah. Princess Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17217157534383672867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-19887837045741418952014-06-01T10:03:18.076-04:002014-06-01T10:03:18.076-04:00Oh, I am shy in the 'crippling social conditio...Oh, I am shy in the 'crippling social condition' sense. I can disguise it online, but in person I often find it hard to talk to people at all. It's rooted in low self-esteem, one of the characteristics of which is difficulty believing I even have good points, hence difficulty selling myself.Daniel Saundershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07087956908558706584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-56662542467859851912014-05-30T15:28:00.113-04:002014-05-30T15:28:00.113-04:00The concept of ayin hara is complicated. I don'...The concept of ayin hara is complicated. I don't believe in the simplistic explanation, but going into further detail involves exhausting typing. <br /><br />But I cannot ignore some ingrained concepts of my heritage, which is primarily, "Shut up." <br /><br />Shyness is a crippling social condition, which is separate from the embarrassment that ensues from tooting one's own horn. Perhaps it is more . . . delicacy?Princess Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17217157534383672867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-977088004560569192014-05-30T11:56:35.137-04:002014-05-30T11:56:35.137-04:00Or it could just be shyness...Or it could just be shyness...Daniel Saundershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07087956908558706584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-88534948100087814642014-05-30T11:17:14.437-04:002014-05-30T11:17:14.437-04:00I don’t even believe in ayin hara! Perhaps my exc...I don’t even believe in ayin hara! Perhaps my excuse is my interest in Kotzk hasidut. Pride and caring what other people think about you were the big sins in Kotzk. The Kotzker is quoted as saying, “I prefer those who commit transgressions in public and mitzvot in secret to those who perform mitzvot in public and transgressions in private.”Daniel Saundershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07087956908558706584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-71852375253521501672014-05-30T09:44:24.434-04:002014-05-30T09:44:24.434-04:00I hate it too. I tend to self-deprecate, in genera...I hate it too. I tend to self-deprecate, in general, to the point that my parents jab me and hiss, "Stop doing that!" They can't complain, though, since I learned it from them. <br /><br />Ayin hara, baby. Princess Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17217157534383672867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-57895579864793750252014-05-29T14:17:56.437-04:002014-05-29T14:17:56.437-04:00I dislike selling myself. I’m very bad at it. I ...I dislike selling myself. I’m very bad at it. I like to give people a list of my weaknesses and flaws upfront and let them discover my strengths and virtues for themselves over time.<br /><br />The Yirmiyahu quote is a favourite of mine, but I’m very bad at living up to it.Daniel Saundershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07087956908558706584noreply@blogger.com