tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post6366658488510907057..comments2024-02-06T11:57:25.334-05:00Comments on The Frumanista: Love is Not All I NeedPrincess Leahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17217157534383672867noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-1529196115960016412015-09-22T13:10:55.185-04:002015-09-22T13:10:55.185-04:00OK, I'd agree with that.
Easy fast and gemar ...OK, I'd agree with that.<br /><br />Easy fast and gemar vechatima tova to you too.Daniel Saundershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07087956908558706584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-28508026098016208942015-09-22T10:45:36.328-04:002015-09-22T10:45:36.328-04:00I think you are misunderstanding my point. My refl...I think you are misunderstanding my point. My reflections on my own personal take on love was more an ending tie-in not my main focus, which was: love IS respect. They are not two separate entities. Respecting another's honor, ego, space, opinions, feelings, likes and dislikes . . . that is love. Preaching love without consideration for another is just words. <br /><br />Easy fast!Princess Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17217157534383672867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-42260335385443571332015-09-21T14:37:45.313-04:002015-09-21T14:37:45.313-04:00Thinking about this some more, there is an idea (a...Thinking about this some more, there is an idea (admittedly untested scientifically) of five love 'languages' - ways people express love. 1) Words of affirmation. 2) Affectionate touching. 3) Doing things for the beloved. 4) Spending quality time with them. 5) Giving gifts. Each person varies in how much they respond to these five. I think I respond primarily to the first; obviously number 3 is primary for you. That doesn't mean that one form is better than the others, just that one needs to know how to respond to someone else's needs.Daniel Saundershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07087956908558706584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-35734609886226882632015-09-21T09:10:36.311-04:002015-09-21T09:10:36.311-04:00Much as I like them, The Beatles have a lot to ans...Much as I like them, The Beatles have a lot to answer for: <i>All You Need is Love</i>. I think respect and awe are hard sells compared with love. Particularly to ba'alei teshuva who come to Judaism via New Age or Eastern mysticism or via counter-culture. Love feels more comforting than awe or respect. Love seems easier than awe (which is frightening) and respect (which involves ideas of hierarchy rather than equality).<br /><br />I disagree about not saying "I love you", though. Yes, obviously showing it is more important. But young children in particular need to hear it, because they won't necessarily understand the showing. I guess I'm also someone who needs to hear praise (not just love) from time to time, for psychological reasons - it's just how I am - I need occasional reassurance. I think it does depend on the person.Daniel Saundershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07087956908558706584noreply@blogger.com