tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post697163744524507240..comments2024-02-06T11:57:25.334-05:00Comments on The Frumanista: No Money Tree, Kids Princess Leahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17217157534383672867noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-5380427276610618332015-07-20T11:04:39.894-04:002015-07-20T11:04:39.894-04:00OK, my take: While it is expected that dinner is o...OK, my take: While it is expected that dinner is on the guy's tab, paying for her to fly out is a more complicated matter. <br /><br />For instance, an acquaintance of mine from Brooklyn met a guy from the city in the city; he handed her a rather large bill to pay for her cab home. That story caused a furor. The same thing happened to me, and I was horrified. I dunno, I felt as though I was being paid off or something. <br /><br />I understand very well about breadwinning and such, but this isn't yet about marriage, but dating. Also, when it comes to a someone flying out it's not just about money. Taking such a trip involves a lot of effort, rescheduling, and packing (the luggage will be about three times that of a male's) so paying for the flight is absolving one of but a small aspect of the process. <br /><br />My suggestion? Skype. Skype is wonderful. If the guy can't fly out because of work, understandable. But the alternative shouldn't be the girl flying out; it should be Skype. <br /><br />If the relationship has progressed to a point of "understanding," perhaps, then, it would be appropriate to pay for her flight. Princess Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17217157534383672867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-36242812656046948912015-07-19T06:48:33.691-04:002015-07-19T06:48:33.691-04:00I respect PL too much to continue carrying on a no...I respect PL too much to continue carrying on a non post related conversation here much longer. Wel have to move it to my blog if itl continue much more...<br /><br />My final thoughts on the matter: a girl who dates me expects me to be the breadwinner, and expects to be able to lead a certain lifestyle that would be enabled by my job. I don't expect the same from here. Thats the difference between her work and mine.<br /><br />Re it being condescending to pay, it has nothing to do with being able to afford it. It has to do with if I'm going to break from the "norm" and have her fly to me twice without me flying to her, i think its only courteous that I offer to pay for one of the flights. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-81205027644502044992015-07-19T02:57:24.295-04:002015-07-19T02:57:24.295-04:00You do realize that the girl is just as likely to ...You do realize that the girl is just as likely to be "working for a living" and can't go "gallivanting around" either? Nothing to do with being able to afford a ticket somewhere. It's actually kind of a condescending attitude.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-13241211496826500552015-07-19T01:34:21.832-04:002015-07-19T01:34:21.832-04:00My thing is I cant start traveling the country to ...My thing is I cant start traveling the country to date. Thank G-d I work for a living, and to start gallivanting around just doesnt work for me. Therefore, I'm willing to pay for dating set 1 & 2. If I was serious enought to hit dating set 3, id take a break from work and travel.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-25312409961594914502015-07-17T13:55:00.546-04:002015-07-17T13:55:00.546-04:00And just to qualify the above, I have traveled for...And just to qualify the above, I have traveled for dates. I always paid my own way, though.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-46915564570729360202015-07-17T11:44:38.128-04:002015-07-17T11:44:38.128-04:00I'm not Princess Lea, but I personally would n...I'm not Princess Lea, but I personally would never do it. Can't really explain it, but there's something about it that bothers me. I guess I prefer to pay my own way.<br />(Also in my experience, guys who won't travel--unless they have a work related reason why they can't--usually have an overinflated ego or don't really want to be dating & were pushed into it by an eager shadchan. At least, that is what I have found.)<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6017927177231080668.post-77801255596944654022015-07-17T02:17:12.246-04:002015-07-17T02:17:12.246-04:00I don't know if telling kids salaries is the s...I don't know if telling kids salaries is the solution, but it is really important to educate children on the value of money. I am constantly shocked at some of my employees who are grown adults with families who still have absolutely no concept of money.<br /><br />Off topic question, what would be your thought if a guy didn't want to fly to date you, but instead offered to pay for your ticket? Is that acceptable?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com