30 Rock, "Lee Marvin vs. Derek Jeter": Liz is complaining to Jack about attending a singles event at the Y.
Liz: This whole thing is unfair. You're juggling two beautiful women while I have to pay to have kickballs whipped at me. This is gender inequity out the yang.
Jack: This has nothing to do with the slight difference in our genders.
Liz: Yes, it does. The older you get the more distinguished you are. Meanwhile, I'm reading a book called, Hiding Your Arms, Hiding Your Anger: Dating Over 35.
Jack: Lemon, I am successful romantically because because I am confident, open, and positive. You are negative, pessimistic, and in danger of becoming permanently sour.
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I have mentioned beforehand that I am anti-positive. But that is for my own internal machinery. For outward purposes, I have developed an Oscar-worthy cheerful demeanor.
It all comes back to "Put On A Happy Face," aka Suck It Up.
It all comes back to "Put On A Happy Face," aka Suck It Up.
So you give people a false impression of yourself? Yeah, no way that could come back to bite you in the tush later...
ReplyDeleteIMHO- lowering your expectations so that you're not disappointed- and being pessimistic are two different things. I don't think it's contradictory to have lowered expectations and still be cheerful in general. You can enjoy nice weather, a good cup of coffee, a friend's smile- and without EXPECTING them - just being pleased when they happen- you'll be happier.
ReplyDeleteFG: Being pleasant even when you don't feel like it isn't sublimating your personality. After all, I am able to be pleasant when I feel like it, right?
ReplyDeleteNothing gives someone the right to inflict their bad mood on others and spread it around. What gives me the right to make others suffer?
Which can also apply when dating. Sure, this guy is a jerk, but maybe I can teach him what it means to behave if I do in spite of his lack of manners.
SD - Hey! Long time no post.
Exactly. I suppose pessimistic is perhaps the wrong terminology. It should rather be "living in the moment," grasping every joyful experience that comes your way.