Mom, Taskmaster

For the parent out there: "When Helping Hurts," by Eli Finkel and Grainne Fitzsimmons.

In a nutshell, as Douglas Horton said: "If you love something let it go free. If it doesn't come back, you never had it. If it comes back, love it forever." 

Oh, and your kids will be whiny dependents their whole lives if they don't do anything for themselves.