Tuesday, December 25, 2012

I Can See You

With the advent of Google, FB, and LinkedIn, us single ladies are able to scrounge cyberspace for dirt on potential dates. 

If the target has managed to squeak by with a "clean" rap sheet, there may come up in ensuing conversation tidbits one is now privy to. Frankly, my searching skills are less than competent, so rarely has this been an issue, but I would, personally, play dumb as to certain details, feigning interest and enlightenment. 

As Henry Alford expounds, there are pros and cons to googling before meeting. 

In my case, it sometimes reinforces a negative impression. It has often occurred that I am handed a fellow's info, which I find less than impressive, perhaps a tad disturbing, but that vibe was superficially inferred from reading between the lines. A quick gander on FB is usually helpful in deciding whether to date or dump. 

I will take this moment to encourage single men to put flattering photos of themselves on FB, such as a lovely head shot bearing a fresh haircut while wearing a tie. I am not impressed by mugging at the camera while being high on Purim, nor an "entertaining" shot of a beast of burden, nor, even worse, a full-length involving Bermuda shorts.

And if your "likes" include whiskey, WWF, or speeding, at least be savvy enough to erect unbreakable privacy settings.

Often a dashing profile picture and an inability to check further photos is what squashes my misgivings. In the end, the less we can know, the better.          

8 comments:

The Professor said...

As crazy as it sounds, there is nothing on me online. I dont have a facebook account, which right there removes a whole bunch of potential info. The one thing that can be found is a rap sheet for an african american fellow who somehow shares my name. Jailbase has him down for sexual assault. Thank goodness there is a picture of him. Otherwise it could be confusing....

Garnel Ironheart said...

The problem with googling is that you're never sure if you've got stuff on your target or someone with the same name.

Mr. Cohen said...

My advice: If Princess Lea is really serious about getting married in the near future, should should post an email address and several pictures of herself on this blog.

Maya Resnikoff said...

A few photos with friends or family never seemed like a bad thing to me- but then, I had very few blind dates, when I was dating. Seeing them first would have been a relief in terms of being able to recognize who I was looking for at the coffee shop, and that's about it. (Although the one I saw a couple of photos of, it didn't help that much, in person, anyway.)

Princess Lea said...

Prof: That is one definite downside!

"Princess Lea: Wanted for espionage and theft. Reward. Email darthvader@deathstar.com"

Princess Lea said...

MGI: As per above.

Maya: I would really like a photo for that purpose. "Are you my date? No? My mistake."

The Beckster said...

I definitely agree that guys should have more put-together picsof themselves on Facebook. And if they like "Jersey Shore" on FB...well, then yes..they should consider updating their privacy settings! (Some guys would like "Jersey Shore" as an ironic statement-but you can't make that assumption if you never met them before).

Princess Lea said...

"Jersey Shore" . . . it's OK to have a guilty pleasure, but at least have enough brains not to advertise it!